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Austin February 23, 2014 at 12:38 am Reply
It is not just about a double-standard. My wife and I have been married for 25 years and from day one we have had issues with sexual intimacy. We both discussed our sexual history just before we began having sex. Over the ensuing years, her numbers gradually increased. As of last week, it has tripled from the original "complete honesty with no repercussions" talk. Every time additional numbers were disclosed by her, she would promise that was all and be happy that is is finally over. That script played out 9 times thus far! It goes further than this. We have never had true emotional and sexual intimacy together. Through counseling and a lot of reading and introspection, we found that nothing is "free" and without consequences. Promiscuous sexual pasts proportionately damage eventually marital relationships with each act of uncommitted sex. So let me tell you that it isn't as simple as "enjoy" and "sow your wild oats, no one is getting hurt" as many seem to want to espouse. It has long lasting effects that damage intimacy with one's eventual life partner. I have lived with a stunted relationship of sexual intimacy for 25 years and I did nothing to cause it whatsoever. I am paying the the price for her irresponsible and cavalier attitude towards sex that happened before I even met her. And because she lied when we discussed it (9 times spanning 25 years), I didn't have the opportunity to consider whether I was willing to continue or not with the consequences looming that have completely killed intimacy for us. I love her dearly and she is the love of my life but I had hopes and dreams as to how my marital life would be. It hasn't been close to that dream and I am pissed about it (I never berate her or make her feel badly about this or anything else). The most irresponsible thing anyone could think and act upon is the most definitely erroneous belief that no one is hurt if no STD is contracted. I would exchange our issue for every STD simultaneously (yes, included HIV) if it would repair the emotional damage. I hope people wake up and stop making it about a double-standard. That is just crap compared to the damage promiscuous sex causes.
Ecrivan July 27, 2011 at 5:48 pm Reply
Practice makes perfect, Alex! Five lovers after age 40 says to me that he's probably not going to be the kind of open, non-judgmental, accepting, adventurous lover most women want. Why do you think so many "conservative" women look so tightly wound? You can't tell a man what satisfies you if you don't know, and the only way to know is experience. Men who don't want experienced women strike me as juvenile and insecure....the Cleaver Women can have them! :-)
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